That´s great! She´s making big improvements Again I have to ask... What about her eye?

Oh, that's good news indeed! If I recall correctly, you were concerned about damage to one of her eyes - any prognosis on that? I was recently out of town for a few days so may have missed whether you found out any more about that.

She can see, bit the eyelid isn't healed all the way yet. It'll be a while. She has weekly appointments for it. She has no eyebrow, and it might not open all the way ever again. Thanks for the concern

That's great news, Liz. I remember at first it was thought that her eye couldn't be saved. It's great to hear she's making progress with her recovery.

Glad to hear she's recovering.

Losing one´s eyesight is one of the worse things imo. She´s very lucky she can still see

This is great news, Liz! Her doctors must be really dedicated that they didn't give up on her limbs/eye. That is a much better prognosis than what was feared immediately after the accident. That is awesome news! Bless her heart, we are all still thinking of her and keeping her in our prayers <3

My husband's grandmother just passed.

Aw Liz, I am so sorry to hear that. My deepest condolences to you, your husband, and his family.

Thank you. My mother in law is beyond herself right now.

I bet she is Losing someone is always terrible, but I tend to see things from their point of view. Like with my grandfather (on my mother´s side). He was getting worse and worse physically and had a hard time doing basically anything. When he died of course I was sad but I was surprised that I very clearly saw it all from his perspective. Now all his hardships were gone. No more struggling just going to the bathroom. No more endless boredom from not being able to go out and do things as he used to do, he loved working in the woods, btw.

I know this isn´t a universal formula, it may just work for me. Best thing you can do now I think, is to comfort each other and talk about what a wonderful person she was and how lucky you all were for having her

It still hurts. She was the only person who didn't talk [censored] about me when I left my husband. She actually told him he needed to straighten out so I'd come back to him. She never blamed me or disliked me. She loved my son immensely.

I'm very sorry for your loss, Elisabeth. I still miss my grandmother terribly. You and your family have my sympathy.

I'm really sorry to hear about that, Liz. She sounded like a great lady and I'll be thinking of you. You need someone to talk to then I'm just a Skype message away.

I'm so sorry to hear that, Liz. Best wishes to you and your family.

May the sweet memories you have of her remain strong and enduring.

Sorry Liz. It sounds like you two were close.

Sorry to hear that, Liz. I know it can be tough but at least she's not in any pain.

I woke up, showered, dried my hair, started to fix it, and just lost it. I was fine over the weekend. It hit me just now.

It can do that. You´re "fine" as long as it happens so to speak, but it catches upp with you when you relax and get some distance to it.

Hopefully you´ll feel better soon

What wise mirocu said.

Yes- it sneaks up on you. Yes- it gets better. No- it never completely "goes away." But- the good memories begin to outweigh the sense of loss.

And- we are here whenever you need someone to talk to.

Definitely. Eventually when you get even further away you will only remember the good things and you will also more and more cherish the fact you had that person in your life.


Definitely, again

Thanks, y'all. They want me to sing at her funeral. I don't know if I can.

You giving a heart-rendering rendition of "Wishing you were somehow here again" would be quite apropos and stunning. Especially the emotion you clearly have to put into it.

If I had the cash, I'd totally stipulate that into my Will.

"If EH want's this Inheritance, she's gotta put it down at the ceremony."

How beautiful that would be! And what a wonderful send-off tribute that would be for her.

Although I agree with everyone else that that would be amazing, don't feel obligated too. If you can't, then you can't.

If you think you can do it, go for it.

Only do it if you feel like it, Liz. It shouldn´t feel like a burden, but then again it might be something you regret if you don´t do it. Sorry if that last thing made it even worse. I just thought I´d give you a heads-up

My husband wrote a song for her. I got bumped, luckily.

I'm getting Confirmed this Wednesday, and I just read all the Letters of Love my family sent. Whatever doubts I had about them, I'm so happy.

Good for you Rohirrim. You are talking about church, correct?

Yup. They gave us off from school so we could get haircuts n'stuff before the service.

Congratulations, Rohirrim!

Congrats, Rohirrim

The service for my husband's grandma was awful. And by awful, I mean the preacher who came in preached like it was Sunday, for her name wrong, the church didn't use our music we had picked out, bumped out anyone who wanted to say anything about Nanny,bumped out my husband and his brother for their song, and spent a half our trying to convert people.

Awwww. I'm so sorry, Liz, that sounds terrible.

That is appalling. That is absolutely appalling. I'm not normally the type to say that, but I daresay you should get in contact with whatever local papers their are, but that place deserves some public backlash for that and then some.

Also, congratulations, Rohirrim. Have fun doing whatever it is is usually done at confirmations.

That´s terrible, Liz! I agree with Mustard, they really shouldn´t get away with that!

I'm not Christian, but most of the family is, and they were even pissed off about it. Even the die hard ones. We were there to remember Nanny, not get saved and belittled and guilted into becoming saved. There's a time and a place for that [censored], and it's 9 a.m. on Sunday mornings.

Exactly! Then and there it was supposed to be all about her, nothing else!

He sang Amazing Grace and got it wrong, too.

I hadn't hears that song in years, and I still know all the words.

That's awful! I can't believe people would do that!

I hate to say it but that is the main point of most organized religion. Recruit through any means. Even the most ridiculously blatant preacher/priest should have recognized that it was not the time or place for it though.

Absolutely unacceptable behavior IMO. The funeral is for the family and is supposed to be a time for people to mourn the death/celebrate the life of the deceased and should not be used as a free pass to try and force anyone into your religion.

That's not completly true.

The above was simply my opinion. I'm sure most religious folks will disagree with me, which is definitely their right. I do see most religious groups constantly recruiting and never hesitating to pass the collection plate around with some special message about why god needs your money to help fund the preacher's Lexus though. I was religious once as well, for a long time in fact and I attended a lot of different services at lots of different churches so I'm not just rambling.

Religion, like anything else in our world, wants to make a profit. Nothing shocking about that. My parents took me to church when I was younger but I never really got the whole thing. And of course, it was boring as hell!
I prefer the pagan way if I have to choose

The only churches I have seen that don't depend on money are the ones that are based off fellowship, run from living rooms or gathered in parks. Those are so rare, nowadays. Megachurches are what the world pretty much sees now. And I find that sad.

I've actually never seen anything like this,I mean they passed the Collection Bags around but they're not for the church or the priest and you don't HAVE to put money in and they don't say God needs your money or anything like that.

That's messed up.

I live in the ass crack of the Bible belt, so it's really common here. Like every church we've gone to, it happens. It's depressing.

As a now Confirmed Roman Catholic, I must agree with Kiln. Although the priests I know ain't exactly loaded, the Church as a whole is probably one of the world's richest entities. They take up a collection for Africa, when they've got probably hundreds of billions of dollars in gold and jewels in the Vatican. I'll let you decide how to feel about that.

Also, can we please not start a religious flamewar? Please?

No flame war. I respect religion. Don't like the jerks who use it for their own wealth, power, and ego trips, but most religions have the same message.

I myself am eclectic with pagan leanings. I take what I want from each religion I come across and make my own "bible." And it works for me. And this way, I make sure that my own personal beliefs are never compromised by one particular religion's doctrine.

As a not-very-Catholic Catholic, I really like the new Pope.