My goodness, thank you to the kind reception to the thread and to our short story relating some of my experience to Buffy's. My intent with the story was to bring depth to some of the thinking that the bowgirl and I share, and to highlight our ability to cross boundaries together and live in each others worlds.
I hope I have not implied credentials that I do not hold. My time as a Marine pilot was from 1975 - 2005. Although I have indeed stared down hostile intakes and been locked by enemy missile systems, I did not do so over Vietnam.
The Marine Corps flew Phantoms well into the 1980's as they gradually transitioned to Hornets. VMFAT-101 trained our last 'Phantom Phlyers' in 1987. The RF-4 reconnaissance versions remained in service into the early 1990's. Long before that happened, I had transitioned from F-4's to other aircraft. Phantom will always hold a special place for me though, as I hope you can tell.
While many of my contemporaries went on to fly the F/A-18, my path was different. I made a rather radical transition to helicopter gunships, where I spent much of the rest of my career. When asked to compare jets and helicopters, I am fond of saying that jets are neat; helicopters are fun. I chose to highlight Phantom here because she relates so much more to Buffy. The bowgirl would find gunships entirely too 'up close and personal' for her sensibilities - too much like Mazoga's style of fighting.
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Rick, thanks for your question on mods for immersion. We don't use any that force behavior. Buffy is real good about when she needs to eat, drink, sleep etc. The very short answer to your question is three mods: Portable Campsite, Saddlebags, Voice Set.
Portable campsite and saddlebags let Buffy travel realistically and help her to live on the road or off the land. She stops and camps when it gets dark or she gets tired. The saddlebags help to organize her inventory and compensate for her low strength. The voice set mod really helps bring her to life. It isn't so much the wonderful phrases that she says as it is giving her a clear and distinct real voice. Whatever I imagine she might say, I know exactly how it sounds.
Below, let me post a more detailed response from another thread that I know you have seen - I make it available in case others may be interested. I'll then follow that with a list of our mods.
* * Acadian quote from Bethesda forums:
Although I have sometimes in the past 'become' my characters, such is not the case with my current character. Rather I travel with her as a spirit that flows within and around her. Therefore it seems perfectly natural to change views between first and third person rather frequently.
I don't really make any rules for my character; rather, I get to know her. Over time, she has developed her own set of rules. She does indeed get tired, hungry, thirsty, injured, dirty and experiences the full range of elven emotions and bodily functions. She tends to those things as she needs to without any prompting from me and, in fact they occupy a fair amount of her time. She even feeds her horse.
I have never known her to 'wait' to heal. She is quite accomplished and comfortable with restoration. She is an empathic healer and can only heal by laying on of hands. By doing so however, she can assess wounds, diagnose and even determine some of what is in the heart of her patient. She must accept some of the pain from her patients to heal them however. She is also rather adept with alchemy.
Speaking of alchemy, she carries quite a precise collection of food and drink with her. One of her favorite drinks is appleberry juice made from Angel's recipe (apple + blueberry). She labels vials of the juice by name. Similarly, she labels restore fatigue potions 'Water' to simulate the content of the goatskin water bags she carries. She probably goes through about ten vials of water daily. Her hair conditioner contains just a touch of ectoplasm, along with some rosemary oil and aloe vera for conditioning, glow dust for shine, and some finely ground bergamot for a nice citrus scent.
Every rider for the Black Horse Courier has a name, as do most of the foresters and many of the Legion Riders she encounters in her extensive travels.
She does not use magic to travel, but does use magic to teleport her horse to her side within her game. It is an imaginary magic she learned called 'The Call of Corsair'. It can be accomplished in the game by fast traveling to her current location (which effectively summons your horse) or using the command console (moveto player).
We do occasionally use fast travel, but it is done as an administrative task like saving, exiting or starting the gameplay session. Having walked or ridden every inch of Cyrodiil during her very very long career, we have no problems focusing our time together on something we want to do. While we travel the roads and overland extensively, we have no problem at all sometimes simulating an uneventful trip, or more often, just a portion of that trip.
Although we do use mods, our list is not extensive. In fact the mods we find most helpful for roleplay are a set of portable camping gear and saddlebags for her precious black mare, Superian.
* * List of Buffy's mods:
-Utility: OBMM, UOPs, OBSE, Pluggy, Wrye Bash
-Cosmetic: Cosmetic Compilation Revised (CCR-EE), Biu's Adventurous Body (BAB)
-Clothes/Armor: BABarized Brash Leather Armors, BAB Fancy Shirt, Luchaires Neck Seam Concealer
-Misc: Dark UId DarN, Unlimited Rings, Dude Where's my Horse, Lady Deadlocks Love Your Horse, Voice Set (Innocent), Spells be Effective, Chase Camera Mod, Short Grass, Disenchant Spell, Actors in Charge, OSR Poses 1, 2, 3 w/translation, See You Sleep (with portable campsite patch)
-Companions: Slofs Summonable Epona, Slofs Oblivion Horses
-Items: Bag of Holding, Portable Campsite, Simple Saddlebags
I will say that I am a fan of the command console. For example, when Buffy says Superian is the fastest horse in Cyrodiil, she's not kidding as we have used the console to change the mare's speed. Similarly, when Buffy wants to bring Superian into a city or even a fort or ruin, we use the command console (moveto player). Buffy would be devastated if some of her friends perished; thanks to the command console, such dear friends who go into harm's way such as Mazoga are essential. I will generally use the command console over a mod when it can do the job.
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Now, as Buffy will often say as she enters a city, "Well, looks like we're not out of the woods yet. Oh wait. . . we are!" Or as she sometimes says on a beautiful night, "Oooh! Look at the stars!"