reversing vampirism, from what i've gleened from talking to people on the interweb and npc's in the game, is a fairly drawn out process, you have to find 1 person (in the mages guild complex near the imperial city, then go on a series of ingredient hunts. if you're higher level, you usually have most of them or know where to find them. (hint, nightshade, which i think you have to gather, is sold at the main ingredient in the market district.)
haven't done it yet myself, i'm using my increased strength to carry all of my goodies from my thieves guild bedroom to my new house in cheydinhal

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and yes, it does increase over max, from what i've seen. my speed is around 120-140, depending on what equipment i'm wearing. strength i haven't seen yet, because i didn't start really raising it until level 22 or so. markman rocks, therefore agility 100 took presidence (sp?). as for skills i'm pretty sure it goes over max too. but i haven't even looked at my base skill levels for a while, due to all the constant effect stuff i wear (and switch around often).
as for clans and vampire quests, i haven't really found any. from personal experiance, only 2 vampires don't attack on sight, both of which are named npc's who don't give you much information, if any at all, on the condition.
a note on feeding - you can also feed on people who are asleep, provided you can sneak well enough to break into their houses. i usually feed off of bums in the imperial city waterfront or from annoying quest givers that are rude (the orc fighter's guild fellow in cheydinhal is a personal favorite), also, i enjoy feeding off of blackwood company members. i haven't found that the human blood potions do anything about feeding. they act simply as fortify attribute potions. though my alchemy skill is low and i can only get the first effect, so i'm not 100% on that.